I think my last long post either was incomprehensible or was merely too long. Either way, I better move it down the line and post something new.
As a parent I've rarely nailed it but on Monday, during our unconventional Mormon family home evening, I think I did just that.
I'd been stewing (in a good way) about finding a way to open up more honest discussion about sex with our two oldest children, one teen and one soon-to-be teen. While listening to a great new podcast Middlebrow introduced me to (To the best of our knowledge), I heard a short piece on teens from David Bainbridge's A Natural History of Teens. It seemed the perfect little piece to break the ice on the sex discussion.
And it worked. Of course what made the discussion amazing were my two great kids. They were authentic, unembarrassed, forthright. The discussion was great. Our 11-year old daughter, often very quiet, had many specific questions tied to particular experiences with friends. If anyone has ever doubted this, my daughter's questions confirmed that kids are hearing all kinds of things and there is no way parents can hide them from the "evils" of sexuality.
It was one of the moments which represented to me what I always thought parenting could be, what I imagined it might be if I were lucky. Just thinking about it gives me hope in the next generation, in their ability to learn, think, and question.
p.s. my son came home tonight full of vigor since he had questioned his old-school health teacher repeatedly as the teacher tried to present strict gender stereotypes. He said he was shaking but would continue to express his views even if the teacher retaliated--gotta love that kid. He showed me the gender chart--more awful than I could have imagine. One of my favorites which reifies stereotypes I thought were nearly dead:
Males: Has the greater tendency to press the "pedal to the metal"
Females: Has the greater ability to stop the engine before it overheats
Good God almighty! We are still telling women they must be the ones to say no and that men can't control themselves.
And, according to his little chart, men focus on reproductive organs and women focus on the whole person. Please,
5 comments:
I think by "whole person" they mean clitoris.
Dr. W that is hilarious!
I guess I must be a female then, because these brief previously posted descriptors have me pegged.
I'm glad my NPR suggestion made "The SEX Discussion" less awkward.
I'll be inviting you over to our house in about five years to have a chat with our Son.
Well done, ci. Deconstructing gender in one FHE. Can we do a follow-up study in, say, five years?
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